Broken Heart

Have you ever gotten your heart ripped out, put in a blender, thrown on the floor, stomped on, and then fed to the dogs? By a friend? By a boyfriend/girlfriend? What about family?

Every situation is different. Everyone is different. We don’t go through the exact same things in life. We may go through SIMILAR situations but never the same.

Dating, stinks doesn’t it? Imagine you are dating someone, and you THINK everything is going hunky dory (yes, I just said that). You really like this person. You are having a great time. You date them for a long time and then BAM they updated their Facebook relationship status to “in a relationship with [someone else that is not you]” ….

How would you react? Would you blow up at that person for deceiving you? Would you walk away without saying a word? Would you confront them and talk it out? How you react also tells others how you are as a person. Yes, you shouldn’t let someone treat you like that. Yes, you should stand up for yourself. You are NOT a doormat. You are NOT someone to wipe their dirty feet on. It also says a lot about that person who treats you with so little respect and thinks so little of you that they feel it’s “OK” to break up with you over Facebook. By the way, this is NOT ok.

Unfortunately, this has happened to me. I had a guy break up with me exactly like this. I wasn’t sure if he was just afraid to talk to me about his feelings and his concerns about our relationship or if he was just a jerk. When I noticed it on Facebook, I felt hurt, betrayed, and heart broken. How do you think I handled this situation? Well, I’ll tell you. I am the type of woman that doesn’t blow up when I feel hurt or betrayed. No. I am usually either the one that ignores it and not speak to them ever again or I confront them, and we talk about it. In other words, break up in a more “adult” way. Like mature adults do, making them be an adult about it.

When I first started dating, I would be the woman who ignored the situation. I would pretend they weren’t cheating on me and be “oblivious” or I would just stop talking to them all together and not talk about the situation. Back then I blamed all my break ups and relationship fails on me. “what is wrong with me?”, “how can I fix it?”, “what did I do wrong?” and so many questions went through my head. In all honesty, these questions still go through my head.

Therefore, adding on to the many insecurities I already have. As, I look back I have learned a great deal about people, relationships, the male species, and most importantly, myself.