Ghosting in Dating

Communication is a VERY important aspect of ANY relationship. I have had this anxiety with my most recent relationship. I mentioned that in my last post. Well, I have decided, with help from friends, to not initiate communication with him like I have been. If he wants to spend time with me or is really interested in me then he can make an effort. Of course, my mind is still going wild and going all over the place. It was really hard to not make contact with him the whole week. He didn’t contact me at all during that week. My friends gave me this advice where if he doesn’t contact me this time by the end of the weekend. Then he is not interested and to just move on. He needs to make the effort, right? Well, this is the reason why I don’t open up very easily when I’m interested in a guy. This is the reason why I don’t show the real me until I can trust them. I still wasn’t able to trust him, but I was getting there. There were so many red flags in this relationship that I ignored because I wanted it to work out. I wanted so bad to be happy with someone that it only made me miserable. This relationship caused me to over think more, have more anxiety, and all around I was more depressed. And that is just during the relationship. I currently want to contact him to figure out what is going on and get closure. But I also know that will only stir the pot and make my mental health worse.

I have tried to talk to him about “us” throughout the relationship. I’ve tried to open up and talk to him what was on my mind. But every time I would open my mouth to say something, I would shut my mouth and chicken out. I was too worried of frightening him away with my feelings and serious talk. I am always afraid of speaking up. Afraid of hurting others. Afraid of hurting feelings. I’m afraid of hurting myself in the process. But if I don’t risk it then I’ll ruin a good thing and if I do risk it, I’ll ruin a good thing. See my conundrum? With my actions and taking risks it can go either direction. And with my fear and my luck it will be the ladder.

What if he contacts me? What do I do then? Do I answer? Do I ignore it? OR do I talk to him and see what is going on? I guess, we shall see IF it does happen or maybe I was just ghosted. In other words, someone who just stops talking to you without giving a reason.

Ghosting in Dating