Who are YOU?

I am going to challenge you to think about who YOU are. Do you know? Or are you still searching? Many of us know who exactly who we are and many of us are still searching. I am still searching for who I am. I am searching to see what makes me happy and why I am the way that I am.

Everyone has a past. We all go through trials and struggles that get us to where we are today. The things you went through is a big contribution to who you are. They helped shape you into how you act, feel, think and even react to situations.

What do I mean by this? Well, let’s say in your younger years you were in a relationship that was verbally and physically abusive. You were too scared to get out of that relationship, so you stayed in it for far too long. You were in that relationship so long that you started to believe the non-sense they were saying. You believed you were not good enough. You believed you were nothing without them. You believed all of those lies.

That kind of relationship would take a toll on you physically, emotionally and mentally. How do you think you would act, feel, and think? Would you feel and think that you aren’t good enough? That you wouldn’t find anyone better? Would you think so low of yourself because you believed all the lies that relationship was telling you? Would you feel unsafe, unwanted, or unloved? How about all of the above?

In a relationship like that you lost trust in people. You feel unsafe because you feel the world is always judging you and is going to hurt you. You cringe with every touch from another person. Even when it was not a hurting hand. You cringe with every word that is spoken because your mind is trained to think about the negatives even when negative words were not spoken. Your mind will twist the words to be something what you are used to and more “comfortable” with you. Someone could say “you look pretty today” but your mind would switch that to “every day you are ugly but today you are less ugly”. Compliments are hard to take when you have been in an abusive relationship. They make you uncomfortable and hard to accept.

Ever have a relationship like this? It can be family, friends, or a significant other. That is just an example on the impact everyday has on who we become. Yes, there are and will be mistakes and regrets in our lives. No matter what they shape us into who are.

There are times where you are not happy with who you are. You ask yourself “why am I like this?”. That’s when you overthink of your past to think through your timeline to figure out why you are the way you are. That would help you understand yourself, so you can move forward. Or it can bring back the tough times. But what would happen if you faced your demons? What would happen if you face your fears? Would that make you go within yourself or would that help you become a better you? Facing your demons, fears, and your past is very scary. But in order for you to move on and become a better you it’s something you have to do. Or you can run away for the rest of your life and lose the good people in your life. Take care of YOU. Face your demons and fears. You have people in your life that love you. Talk with them. Let them help you fight those demons. That’s my hardest thing for me to do is to depend on others. But it’s also quite hard to face those demons alone. When you have an army it’s easier to fight the battles. With each battle you win you are able to win the war of life. You are able to figure out who you are with each battle you fight. When you fight you become the better you that you deserve.

YOU BE YOU! Do you accept the challenge? Who are you?